Re: [BardonPraxis] Re: Anger

[Amberlyn <amberlyn@...>]

Greetings,

Nita wrote:
> I have found that if people are judmental they will pick on you no
>matter what you do.
<snip>
> IIH is really good for you because in the Soul mirror work you can
>see your personality and change what you don't like.

This reminded me of a profound change in my life. My mother is *very* 
judgmental - it is just her nature. As a child it seemed no matter how I 
might have excelled, she found fault with me. There came a time in my early 
30's, when enough became enough. I went through a traumatic event, and did 
some intense soul mirror work, without then knowing what it was. I changed 
- big time. I developed strength, self-confidence and self-esteem, and 
finally set out some new rules of behavior between us. My mother sensed a 
huge difference in me; she saw that I would no longer accept her picky 
criticism, and this caused her to reassess how she would treat me. We now - 
decades later - have have a relationship that is much more positive. She 
seeks my strength and counsel, and I give it freely. Some topics are still 
off limits; I refuse to discuss them with her, and she has accepted this. I 
will no longer accept her needless, picky criticism, and she no longer 
tries it with me. Indeed, we can change others, but it all starts WITHIN 
each of us.

Thank you Nita, for prompting this memory and affirming just how beneficial 
Soul Mirror work really is <smile>.

Amberlyn

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