Dear Vovin, << Another possibility is to "out-empath" the other's negativity by projecting your own positive alternative. :)>> Well, apart the fact that this is beyond my reach for the time being, it doesn't correspond exactly to my situation : I seem to be the type of person who realises only *after the fact* that he unconsciously made another person's feelings his own. (I'm not sure of my English here - hope you understand :-) So somebody comes into my office, and after 1-2 minutes, Newbie starts feeling bizarre, believing that "he's &%*#@ sick again". And it is only when the other guy leaves (and I start slowly getting better) or mentions/demonstrates that he is sick that I realize that it was "no me" in fact. So it's too late to "out-empath" him/her. And how do you out-empath flu btw :-) ? Greetings :-) NB __________________________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Yahoo! Tax Center - forms, calculators, tips, more http://taxes.yahoo.com/