Rawn, > It does concern me that this discussion has centered so much around > 'what if's and around what *others* *might* encounter but not about > *your* own experience of these matters. ok . fair enough :-) I *thought* I was on topic :-) I guess this does reflect my experience in a way . But that is a long story .Suffice to say that when i created my mirror with "good" and "bad " attributes , with the "good" and"bad" coming from social conditioning and "socially accepted" mores, i found myself striving to become someone *I* didn't want to be . The "how *you* feel and think is good " meme , in one of Rawn's earlier mails struck a chord and hence my posts . One simple example is an item on my mirror "Pride" . I plonked this into the "black" mirror and intended to work towards being "humble" (culturally pride = bad, humility == good ).On reflection, i find there are TWO kinds of hunility , one of being humble because you *know* (not think... know) that however high your achievements, there are people better than you and you always have more to do and become(i call this humility based on *perception* ) and the other is being humble because that is "good" (i call this humility based on a notion of "goodness" ).In *my* world the former is different from the latter. Suffice to say i encountered tremendous resistance trying to be "nice" (which is what i equated "positive" to) . I am now redoing my mirror based on who and what *I* want to become . I guess in a nutshell, i find that many of my mirror items are misclassified and the "bad" items have components of"good" and vice versa .Now my mirror is looking very different , and many of my "positives" and "negatives" don't look anything like my "culture sanctioned" values . I guess there is still some residual confusion there . Aplogies if any of this was rather fuzzily expressed . > What did you think Bardon's listing of the positive and negative > characteristics was about if not a *universal* statement of positive > BEing? Ahhh but i thought we should NOT rely on BArdon's charactersitics ?What i found out after a long struggle to be "good" was that each of these characteristics , say "humility" looked very different to me than what is "commonly" accpeted as its meaning. maybe i would have saved a lot of time and effort if i had figured this out earlier . > How *you* feel *inside* is not rooted in your culture. It is *modified* > by your culture, but the root is in *you* (i.e., the Individual Self). ok . i need to think on this further . > >> b)the 'real world effectiveness' problem << > > I don't understand what you're trying to say here. If you think that > the character transformation work is "fluffy bunny" or leads in some way > to "fluffy bunnyness" then it is clear you are not talking from > practical experience. I suggest that you focus on practice and see for > yourself. The character transformation work anchors you very clearly in > THIS world. :) ok sorry rawn :) i guess i was just angry at the notion that virtue== "goodness" concept . i often found myself trying to be "humble" magnanimous" etc and feeling and being very ineffective in real world situations consequently . I was just trying to make the point that with mirror work one should become MORE effective not less in the physical world and if not there is something wrong . I am sure it is blindingly obvious to lots of people. :-| > If this is what you *think* then try it out and see if it *works*. :) > All of your speculations about what might or might not be possible have > yet to be tested through experience. Hermetic *initiation* (as opposed > to the intellectual study and speculation) is founded upon *your* > *experience*. Makes PERFECT sense !! Thanks again, ravi